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Lesson #6 – Be A Snake

Ok, so … what’s more pleasant than being a snake? A snake is a beautiful creature, with those beautiful eyes, and that awesome skin, crawling unheard around its victim, hugging it as if it is a friend; pouring poison in the victim’s blood, just to make it unaware of what will follow. And when the victim is unable to defend anymore, the snake either suffocates it, or casts the deadly bite.

Translated into the world of normal people, the snake is usually a woman (I’m sorry, ladies, but that’s what most of the women are). When she casts her eyes on another woman’s man, she adopts several strategies: she does everything in her power to bewitch the man, who forgets who was actually the woman who stood by him in the most difficult moments of his life. Another strategy is to befriend with the man’s partner and pretends to be a friend to her. She would criticize the evil man who is hurting the poor woman, she gives hugs, and she promises with tears in her eyes and voice that she would never touch him, no matter what. She is pouring her poison just to increase the victim’s confidence in her, and when the time is right for her, she strikes. All promises, all tears just prove to be lies. But this is specific to snakes, right?

Snakes don’t have moral values. This particular snake once told me: “It is not my fault that your man is talking to me, and becoming closer and closer to me”. When I told her that her moral values – I still thought she had some – should tell her to reject him, since he is involved into a relationship already, she started her poisonous flow of tears, telling me that by no  means she is interested in my man, and that she dearly loves her husband – yeah, she was “happily” married when all this happened. And then I remembered someone saying: “Never build your happiness on other people’s unhappiness”. And yet, the snake and the backstabber built their happiness on other people’s unhappiness. Is this a sign of hypocrisy? It is by me, and yet, another lesson learned.

What this lesson taught me? If you want to be happy, step on friends bodies, be a snake, be a backstabber and have absolutely no moral values: in three words – be a bitch! And you will succeed!

What the snake forgets though is that she is not the only snake in this world. And also, the same snake forgets that their skins end up being purses or belts.

Till next lesson


I had a lot of comments on this post, most of them from the people who knew the case I wrote about, and one from one of the characters described. I am choosing to not make them public out of at several reasons:

1. The ones commenting so far have a dose of subjectivity, which is normal, since this particular case developed in a pretty small virtual community. However, even if I have been reminded that, I’m old enough, and I have see enough in my life to know that the story happens all the time, and even worse, in real life. The casualties in virtual life are minimal … some souls hurt, and that’s it. In real life though, the damages are far worse: families broken apart, children (which are always the innocent victims) who feel guilty and insecure, material loss and so on. Snakes like the one described here do precisely the same in real life, without caring a bit about all that, other than their own (temporary) happiness.

2. Knowing that virtual community too well, I do not want the ones commenting here to be hurt and bashed.

3. The “snake’s” comment will not be posted either, and not because I do not want to let the other side tell their story, but simply because she never told her side of the story in her post. She only insulted and proved to me how shallow she is, and that she understood nothing out of this story. Oh, by the way, you can sue me, as intended. You will make the day of the court and make them laugh for weeks, if not longer.

Anyway, I promise to post any comment that comes outside that particular virtual community, since the commenters will not be touched by subjectivity. 😉

Lesson # 5 – Be a Backstabber

This is one of the nicest ones!

Say that you have a friend who shows up in your life when you needed them most. They lend a hand, a shoulder and an ear to you in such a way that you actually come to the conclusion that you owe them your life. As a normal person, make sure that you will tell them that. Thus, the pain that you will provoke later on will be even bigger, and your satisfaction absolutely complete. The fact that your friend did that just means that he/she is part of the abnormals. A normal person, of course, would never do that! So, since they are abnormals, they actually deserve what it is to happen to them. By lending you the hand/shoulder/ear, they asked for it!

But let’s not rush things.

Other things that you can do in order to spice all this: make yourself trustful to that friend, make them believe that they can trust you 1000%, more than anyone else they can ever trust. Ask for them to help you or accept anytime they offer to help you. Oh well, you can help back from time to time, just to not make them suspect anything. As abnormal people, they helped you without expecting any help back, so they will only be grateful to you for giving them your attention and helping them. Oh, and never forget to keep prizing them, tell them how great they are and how much they did for you. They are usually modest, so they will say something like: “Nah, it was not a big deal at all. I would do it for you anytime”. And they will be honest when saying that, because you know … they think that they are helping a friend in need! They are stupid enough as to believe that you actually are their friend. Even better when they consider you their best friend! They cannot expect / suspect anything bad coming from a friend, can they? Even less from their best friend!

Something else that you can do is giving them hopes. Of course, false hopes, but you will have to encourage them, nourish them, make him/her dream! A shattered hope or dream is always beautiful to watch!

Now comes the fun part. When you grew strong enough and you realize that you no longer need them, HIT! Make sure that you hit them REALLY hard, as hard as possible. If they have a weak heart, it’s even better. It’s none of your business if they will make a heart attack! It’s not your fault that they got into this. You simply realize that you don’t need them anymore, so it is time to throw them to the trash bin. You don’t need such weak people around you! They will only stop you from your way to glory! YOUR glory, of course. Oh … don’t misunderstand me. When I said “hit them”, I didn’t mean the actual violent gesture, that would be just primitive. Hit them with your words and deeds. Words hurt more than a real hit. You can crush a person with a single word. You know their weaknesses since they trust you and consider you their best friend, so, of course, in their stupidity, they already let you know what their weaknesses are. So, make sure that you hit them where they hurt most.

As soon as you did that, say a short “I’m sorry” then turn around and mind your own life, without looking back. Of course, in their stupidity, they will be fine having their life, hopes, dreams shattered, but patched with a simple “I’m sorry”. After all, as I said before, they asked for it.

And to add even more fun to all this, find yourself a new victim. You can use the old friend that you just crushed as an excuse. Complain about him/her, and how hurt you felt for any reason – it doesn’t matter which – and use a sad voice, and cry a little bit … tears always help. And you will see someone lending their hand, shoulder, ear to you, and you will understand that you just found another abnormal that you can take advantage of and do your little dirty game with them.

And on and on and on … you can do it endlessly.

You might say that all this sounds so cruel. Well, it might, but it’s not. It’s real life! Look around you and see how many people do it without blinking. If you are not one of them, then you are an abnormal, and you deserve to be treated like that. Just remember: people do to others what the others allow them  to do to them. If they allow you to hurt them, then why not do it? It’s fun – for you, of course, and it is the certain way to success. It’s not you the one who suffers, it is them. And as long as it is not hurting you, why would you care?

Oh, and as a last note. Sometimes the abnormals might feel the need to ask you a favor that would make them happy and you unhappy. Make sure that you clear your throat and you shout your lungs out to them: “Never build your happiness on other people’s unhappiness!” Of course, this applies only to them in relation to you. They will stop trying to make themselves happy, and will do their best to make YOU happy. Of course, if they ever dare to quote you when you hurt them and build your happiness on their unhappiness, just ignore them! They simply cannot be original.

Until next time…